Tuesday, June 25, 2013

RHONJ Update! It's My Party... & Gym Rats

With last week being Father's Day, I wasn't able to post - let alone watch - The New Jersey Housewives and their escapades.  So this week I am catching up on both episodes, It's My Party and I'll Fight If I Want To & Gym Rats and the one thing I can say about all the conflict is that it stems from gossip, he said-she said tattles, and when any of them finally get together to hash it out, they are all too upset to even hear the truth. 

Teresa seems to be the theme of the newest episode, supposedly causing drama everywhere, but the thing is she never even seems to be in the room, or the instigator of any of it (currently).  When Melissa goes home to report to her husband Joe on the events of Gia's birthday party, she doesn't have anything nice to say and just stirs up trouble.  First, she can't count.  I am not going to go into whether or not Teresa should care about Melissa visiting her father-in-law in the hospital because it's pointless.  Her father mentioned Melissa hadn't come to see him and it hurt Teresa.  She is entitled to her feelings.  Kim D. doesn't ever help the situation, but we all know this and should be over it at this point.  Kim is Teresa's friend, Teresa was upset and she shared it with her friend, probably not the best decision, but that's what friends are for.  Kim shouldn't have approached Melissa about a family matter but she did.  Melissa lied, she claimed she saw her father-in-law in the hospital the day after he went in.  He went to the hospital on Saturday, she went to see him on Wednesday, that is not the day after no matter how you look at it.  She then does a number of twists and turns to excuse her behavior, which means she knows she was wrong.  If she thought she did the right thing, she wouldn't need all the excuses.  She claimed that she had a sore throat, to quote her she "felt like she was swallowing glass" for two days which is why she waited.  Sure it's a good excuse, but is it true?  During these two days when she felt too bad to go see Joe & Teresa's father, she was at the gym working out and meeting up with other cast members, she seemed fine.  Even Kathy didn't believe her sore throat routine.  Melissa's other defense is that everyone should mind their own business and stay out of hers.  Seriously?  Then why are you on a reality TV show?  The whole premise is to let everybody into your life and your business, especially other cast members.  She fails on all fronts and just stirs the pot constantly while blaming Teresa for all the problems.  She needs to accept her fault in all the family issues and I really believe that a large part of the blame is on her.  Melissa claims that she is concerned that Teresa will say negative things about her to their children, and later Joe mimics the same line, but Melissa talks shit about Teresa in front of her children often and it is depicted on camera at least twice in the last two episodes, while I have yet to see Teresa do this at all (recently).  They are hypocrites and until they stop believing the bullshit they are spreading, only Melissa and Joe are to blame for their family's turmoil.  I find Melissa insinuating that Teresa is bi-polar was distasteful and out of line.  There are people who actually struggle with mental illness and I don't think that it is something that should be tossed around as an insult when she can't think of anything else negative to say.  So why did Teresa change her tone?  Probably because it was her daughter's birthday and it was time for cake and she wanted to put on a happy face to make the party enjoyable for her daughter.  That's not something to insult, but rather admire.  Aside from this debacle, we saw Melissa discussing her book about marriage.  With these housewives, there is always a book deal about something.  It was her relationship with her father that was the topic and we saw previous clips where Melissa regarded her husband, Joe, just like her father and that is why she loves and appreciates him so much.  But there is some disconnect in this story as all Melissa-tales go as she makes claims that her father was a cheater and would disappear for days at a time and she would find her mother in a ball crying over her father's actions.  For many daughters with unfaithful fathers issues arise in relationships regarding trust.  However while Melissa claims she has these repercussions, they are never visible and I don't understand why she would love her husband so much because he reminds her of her cheating father.  It just doesn't add up.           

I am really disappointed with Jacqueline this season in regards to Teresa.  She hears rumors and puts way too much truth in them. (You would think she would have learned her lesson as this was the cause of the rupture of their friendship last season.  In case you missed out, Jacqueline kind-of gossip magazine & website stalked Teresa and then worked herself up over the information, causing her to worry constantly about Teresa's bankruptcy and possible jail time.  She was upset that she was hearing the information second hand, when she confronted Teresa she was assured that if these were real problems she was experiencing Jacqueline would know.)  Now she says she wants nothing to do with the Guidices, but her actions don't back up her story.  She traveled 45 minutes out of her way to the gym Teresa frequents regularly, getting lost and having a panic attack on the way, to spend time with Melissa and Kathy.  Although she arrived after everyone was done working out, she heard Teresa was upset that Jacqueline was there.  Again with the rumors.  I think Teresa, like me, was just confused with why Jacqueline would travel so far, not even to work out, to go to a place where it was likely she would see Teresa.  Jacqueline also talks about reading a book about sociopaths a friend gave her to examine how similar the qualities were to Teresa's.  If she doesn't want anything to do with her, why spend your free time studying a mental-illness and trying to make connections?  In addition, I think that Jacqueline just sees what she wants to see, the list of similar traits were flimsy at best and could be applied to anyone.  For example, blaming others - that's what they all do, they hardly ever take responsibility for their own actions and if that's all it takes to be considered a sociopath - they all fit the bill!  I like Jacqueline and I understand that she was worried about her friend because of what she was reading, but she needs to take things straight from the horse's mouth.

Kathy threw a birthday party for her husband Richie and their daughter Victoria with friends and family.  It was a nice celebration until Marissa made a snide comment about hoping it was better than Teresa's daughter Gia's party.  This of course sparked everyone into discussing Teresa and Kathy's sister Rosie screaming drunken insults which upset birthday-girl Victoria.  I mean, who are the adults?  Kathy commented that Teresa ruined the party even though she wasn't there, but wasn't it really Melissa's fault who brought her up and Caroline's for saying that Teresa didn't want anything to do with them?   Again, none of this is actually from Teresa, it is just opinions, hearsay and slander.  Kathy is upset because Caroline said that Teresa is still hurt from Kathy calling her father a coward.  I feel crazy even writing that sentence!  Plus it is insane to call Teresa's elderly father a coward, give a simple I'm sorry and think that it's forgotten.  She very well might have forgiven Kathy, but that doesn't mean it's forgotten.  Unless Teresa & Kathy actually talk one-on-one about their issues all this gossip is just making a bad situation worse.  

Finally, I want to address the brother/sister blow-out gym scene with Joe & Teresa.  Teresa finally sees her brother after a  year of not talking and says her father would be upset if he knew they were in the same room and didn't even speak, but I think he would be more upset with his son's behavior when she extends the olive branch.  It has all the same tones as Joe's first scene ever on RHONJ at his son's christening when Teresa goes over to congratulate him and a literal fist fight pursues.  Yes, Joe seems like a nice guy.  He is fun at a party and does crazy things, but he holds on to so much and as we see in this scene he really isn't a good guy.  I admire Teresa for trying to talk to him, but she should know her brother.  He claims that Melissa isn't the problem and he isn't pussy whipped but that just isn't true.  He doesn't talk to his sister, he just hears Melissa's side, the little devil on his shoulder whispering nasty things about Teresa every chance she gets.  I think that it is a good thing for a man to stick up for his wife but not to be completely brainless and not asses the situation at all.  He says he's smart, but I'm not seeing it as his line of logic is completely flawed and all he does is see red and fly of the handle.  The things he said to his sister were disgusting, hurtful and uncalled for.  Throughout all the nasty comments it seems like Joe and Teresa didn't have anything to fight about other than their spouses.  Logical people should be able to look at the situation and just say; okay I don't like your wife & you don't like my husband, let's keep them out of our business and ask them to just be cordial with us as a family and move one.  I don't see Joe Gorga doing this ever.  And while Joe Gudice has plenty of nasty things to say about his in-laws it never sways Teresa the way that Melissa's comments sway Joe Gorga.  Again, no matter how I look at it, it always adds up to Melissa being the problem in the family.  Until Joe Gorga thinks for himself and doesn't hold every overheard rumor and every bitchy comment from Melissa over Teresa's head there will not be peace.  They need to just forgive and forget, move on, cause it is so ridiculous it is painful to watch.    

Like I said in the first place, all the gossip is the root of the problems in Jersey.  They all have communication issues and the inability to let anything go.  I mean really, Teresa saying Melissa lip-syncs is why there family is torn apart?!  It is just one little dig after another and everyone has something to say about it!  In this close knit community all they talk about is each other and you shouldn't throw stones when you live in a glass house unless you want to end up like these girls, simply shattered.

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